Structured Family Recovery™ is a program at SOS that outlines how each family member impacts a patient’s recovery during and after treatment. Developed by Debra Jay, this program creates a defined family support system which can provide empathy, understanding, and accountability once a client enters into and completes residential treatment.
Here are the core action steps needed to participate in SFR:
• A one-hour Structured Family Recovery™ conference call each week.
• A one-hour 12-step recovery meeting for families each week.
Using this approach, the family becomes an important element of an addict’s recovery during and after treatment. The Structured Family Recovery™ program at SOS incorporates the tools outlined in Debra’s new book, “It Takes a Family.”
Click HERE to preview the book (PDF)
The Structured Family Recovery™ program places emphasis on:
• Positive rewards and negative consequences
• Frequent random drug testing
• 12 step involvement and abstinence expectation
• Applicable role models and recovery mentors
• Modified lifestyles
• Active and sustained monitoring
• Active management of relapse
• Continuing care approach


Please take these three simple steps:
1. Obtain a copy of It Takes a Family: A Cooperative Approach to Structured Recovery.
2. Read the first 34 pages (and ask other close family members to do the same).
3. Call us here at Pine Grove at 405-810-1766 or 405-205-8251 to discuss how your family can begin this cooperative approach to lasting sobriety.

“If we can trust just a bit, if not yet in each other, in the greater providence of good, and walk forward with only the barest of faith, we will find what we could not see before. Too few find their way alone. Let us bring family and the beloved addict together. It is in the “we’ that we find an elegance in life that is as sweet as it is powerful.”
-Debra Jay, It Takes a Family
“In over 20 years of specializing in family systems and addiction, I’ve never seen families change so quickly. As a matter of fact, I see things happen in 2 to 3 weeks that, as a profession, we just weren’t able to make happen before. I see how these changes are having a profound effect on reducing the relapse rate in families.”
-Steve Hanna, SFR counselor
“Debra Jay unlocks the secrets of this revolutionary approach [the New Paradigm] to addiction. She adds a significant new dimension by focusing on the role of the family both in creating this system of care management and in making it work, long term. The author highlights the essential element of the approach as no one else has: the crucial role of the addict’s family.”
–Robert L. DuPont, M.D., First Director on the National Institute of Drug Abuse

Debra Jay’s revolutionary new book takes a fresh approach to the recovery process by making family members and friends part of the recovery team, beginning in the early stages of sobriety. It Takes a Family presents the Structured Family Recovery™ process, a year-long program for families.
While most alcoholics and addicts coming out of treatment have a basic aftercare plan, families are often left in the dark. Debra Jay uses straightforward, compassionate language to outline a structured model that shows family members both how to take personal responsibility and to build a circle of support to meet the obstacles common to the first year of recovery. Together, family members address the challenges of enabling, denial, and pain while developing their communication skills through practical, easy-to-follow strategies and exercises designed to create transparency and accountability. With this invaluable guide, family members work together as they reinvent their relationships without the all-consuming destruction of active addiction.
It Takes a Family includes a year-long blueprint for family meetings, that include an introduction to the 12 Steps for families, weekly topics and readings, guidelines for discussion, directions for creating a relapse plan, and much more.


Debra Jay is a consultant for Pine Grove Behavioral Health & Addiction Services and founder of the Structured Family Recovery™ program, which is available to families in her latest book, It Takes a Family: A Cooperative Approach to Lasting Sobriety. She is the author of No More Letting Go: The Spirituality of Taking Action Against Alcoholism and Drug Addiction as well as the bestseller, Love First: A Family’s Guide to Intervention. She also authored Aging and Addiction: Helping Older Adults Overcome Alcohol or Medication Dependence. Ms. Jay regularly appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show for 3 seasons as an addiction expert. She has also been a guest expert on The Dr. Oz Show. She is co-founder of a private practice providing Structured Family Recovery and Clinical Intervention services to families throughout the United States and internationally.